Here is more information for sons and daughters of our foster carers or for those who are thinking of fostering
Dealing with things that annoy you
The thing sons and daughters of foster carers often find most difficult to deal with is when the children or young people being fostered behave in a way that they wouldn’t. This behaviour can take many. If a foster child is rude to your parent/s it can be very hard to not say anything.
If you feel yourself getting worked up, it can help to go to your room or out of the house to calm down. Obviously, it is easier to say ‘Don’t lose your temper’ than it can be to do it! It might help to remember that this behaviour is sometimes a result of fostered children being upset or frustrated about being way from their own family.
If you are finding things difficult to cope with, you should talk to someone. Also if you feel uncomfortable about the way someone talks to you, or acts around you, you must tell your parent/s.
What do I say?
If a child who is fostered by your family comes to your school you may be asked questions about them, such as why they are staying with your family. Speak to your parents and Placement Manager about what you should say. Sometimes it will be easier just to say that you can’t talk about it.
If you suspect that a child your family is fostering is being bullied, or is bullying someone else, it is really important that you tell someone. It’s best not to get involved yourself, but you must speak to your parent/s or a teacher at school who you trust. There should be a teacher at your school who will know that the child is fostered and who will be responsible for supporting them at school. Your parent/s should know who the teacher is.